Ever act in ways you know later you will regret & feel bad about, but you feel little control in the moment??? Almost as if you are being controlled by a force bigger than you.
Well that all changes with ONE powerful science-based trick called the Can-Control Mindset 💥
This strategy has been a GAME CHANGER for my own life and I wanted to share it with you…
HOW TO USE: Say this when you stray from a goal and start feeling hopeless & frustrated…
“Yes it is true __________ [insert screw up], BUT in this moment what CAN I control?”
Think about 1 small thing that you can in fact control right. at. that. moment. When you ask yourself to think about what you CAN control immediately, it switches on a mindset that is ready to take action instead of give up.
EXAMPLE:
😃 1. Goal
Eat a piece of dark chocolate w/ a little peanut butter at a table plate chair as an after-dinner treat.
🙈 2. Screw up
Eat a piece of dark chocolate w/ a BIG glob of peanut butter. Standing. Not from a plate. Just shoving it in my mouth.
😞 3. Feel hopeless
Your mind says…what the hell, I already overdid it. I’ll go for another.
😡 4. Give up
Eat another. and another…
TRY THIS INSTEAD…
😃 1. Goal
Eat a piece of dark chocolate w/ a little peanut butter at a table plate chair as an after-dinner treat.
🙈 2. Screw up
Eat a piece of dark chocolate w/ a BIG glob of peanut butter. Standing. Not from a plate. Just shoving it in my mouth.
💡 3. Use Can-Control Mindset
Your mind says…what the hell, I already overdid it. I’ll go for another. Wait, wait, wait…“What can I control right now?”
💥 4. Feel optimistic & motivated
Yes it is true I just overate mindlessly, BUT in this moment I CAN just pack this up and walk away. Done. Success! Win! Whoooo!
Practice the Can-Control Mindset the next time you stray from a goal & feel like throwing in the towel. It’s a powerful way to shift from a self-sabotage mindset to a success mindset.
PS: Try the Can-Control Mindset for all types of goals. Use it for eating & exercise goals and work-related goals, too. 🎉
Mary Hollander says
I love this! I am going to share it with my Conscious Aging Group. It is a perfect example of re-framing. You are always so inspiring. I also share your Blog posts & recipes on my cancer nutrition website.
Thank you!
Mary
DJ Blatner, RDN says
Thanks for sharing the concept! It’s helped me so much! xoxo