Ever act in ways you know later you will regret & feel bad about, but you feel little control in the moment??? Almost as if you are being controlled by a force bigger than you.
Well that all changes with ONE powerful science based trick called the Can-Control Mindset
This strategy has been a GAME CHANGER for my own life and I wanted to share it with you… How to use:
Say this when you stray from a goal and start feeling hopeless & frustrated…
“Yes it is true __________ [insert screw up] happened, BUT in this moment what CAN I control?”
Think about 1 small thing that you can in fact control right. at. that. moment.
When you ask yourself to think about what you CAN control immediately, it switches on a mindset that is ready to take action instead of give up.
Example:
Goal
Eat a piece of dark chocolate w/ a little peanut butter at a table plate chair as an after-dinner treat.
Screw up
Eat a piece of dark chocolate w/ a BIG glob of peanut butter. Standing. Not from a plate. Just shoving it in my mouth.
Feel hopeless
Your mind says…what the hell, already overdid it. I’ll go for another.
Give up
Eat another. and another…
Try this instead:
Goal
Eat a piece of dark chocolate w/ a little peanut butter at a table plate chair as an after-dinner treat.
Screw up
Eat a piece of dark chocolate w/ a BIG glob of peanut butter. Standing. Not from a plate. Just shoving it in my mouth.
Use Can-Control Mindset
Your mind says…what the hell, already overdid it. I’ll go for another. Wait…what can I control right now?
Feel optimistic & motivated
Sure I just overate mindlessly, but right now I can just pack this up and walk away. Done.
Practice the Can-Control Mindset the next time you stray from a goal & feel like throwing in the towel.
It’s a powerful way to shift from a self-sabotage mindset to a success mindset.
PS: Try the Can-Control Mindset for all types of goals. Use it for eating/exercise goals and work-related goals, too.
Mary Hollander says
I love this! I am going to share it with my Conscious Aging Group. It is a perfect example of re-framing. You are always so inspiring. I also share your Blog posts & recipes on my cancer nutrition website.
Thank you!
Mary
DJ Blatner, RDN says
Thanks for sharing the concept! It’s helped me so much! xoxo